Let’s talk about choosing yourself. What does that mean? Is it selfish?

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Let’s talk about choosing yourself. What does that mean? Is it selfish?

There is a family living inside you. Your inner child, your ego, your shadow, your wounded parts, your mission. Each of these needs your care & attention in order for you to live your most authentic life.

Choosing yourself means giving conscious attention to these parts of you. Knowing what they need. Providing for them. Nurturing them.

Sound selfish to you? If so, seek solitude. You may be ignoring your core needs.

Choosing yourself. Self-care. Loving yourself. Inner parenting. Parts work. These are all buzzwords and clinical psychology terms and tools for the same thing. Take care of yourself!

Growing up I was told that this was a selfish act. Both by religion and unconscious parenting. I was the black sheep of the family. I was the comedian of the family. I was the free and easy one in the family. I was the slick and slippery substance that tried to make the friction in the family stop.

Consequently, it took me years to learn that my needs mattered. In order to serve and love others well, I really needed to live and serve myself well. We hear this all the time, but for some of us, it doesn’t soak in until we burn out.

Upon burnout we not only feel angry at others we feel anger towards ourselves for allowing things to get to this point. This is the hardest thing to encounter. This self-anger is the part of us that needs love the most.

It’s not your fault. You didn’t know. You were doing your best at that moment. You were being authentic to who you were then. True to yourself. Instead of being angry, be proud that you showed up with authenticity. Be proud that in your moments of self-protection, you cared enough to also want to protect others.

You’re a lover. The world needs you. We need you. I need you. To love yourself first. Give yourself all the care, time, nurture, and attention. Now is your time. We need your love more than ever, so please fill your tank.

Embracing Self-Freedom: A Journey of Empowerment and Growth

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In a world filled with expectations, obligations, and societal norms, finding true freedom within oneself can often feel like a distant dream. However, self-freedom isn’t just about breaking free from external constraints; it’s about embracing your authentic self and living in alignment with your values and desires. As a coach dedicated to guiding individuals on their path to self-discovery and empowerment, I’ve witnessed firsthand the transformative power of embracing self-freedom.

At its core, self-freedom is about taking ownership of your life and making choices that resonate with your innermost being. It’s about liberating yourself from self-doubt, fear, and limiting beliefs that hold you back from living a fulfilling and purposeful life. Whether it’s pursuing a passion, setting boundaries in relationships, or embarking on a journey of self-improvement, self-freedom empowers you to live life on your own terms.

One of the key aspects of cultivating self-freedom is learning to trust yourself and your intuition. Too often, we seek validation and approval from others, allowing their opinions to dictate our decisions. However, true freedom comes from within; it comes from having the courage to listen to your inner voice and follow the path that feels right for you, even if it means going against the grain.

Another essential element of self-freedom is practicing self-care and self-love. It’s about honoring your needs, prioritizing your well-being, and treating yourself with compassion and kindness. By nurturing your mind, body, and soul, you create a strong foundation for personal growth and empowerment.

Moreover, self-freedom is an ongoing journey of exploration and growth. It requires self-reflection, resilience, and a willingness to step outside your comfort zone. As a coach, I provide guidance, support, and tools to help my clients navigate this journey with confidence and clarity.

In conclusion, self-freedom is not an elusive concept reserved for a select few; it’s a birthright that belongs to each and every one of us. By embracing who you are, trusting yourself, and prioritizing your well-being, you can unlock the door to a life filled with authenticity, purpose, and joy. So, dare to dream, dare to be yourself, and dare to live a life of self-freedom. Your journey awaits.